Hello fellow bloggers and TBEX-ers! Are you excited for the two upcoming TBEX events this Fall?

A blogger myself, I attended the TBEX event in Ireland last October. I prepared a lot and I learned even more. While TBEX is so exciting, it can be nerve-wracking too.

Angelica Wilk at Guinness Storehouse, TBEX Dublin

Angelica Wilk at Guinness Storehouse, TBEX Dublin

Some things I experienced throughout and after the conference were emotions I had not previously felt in such a setting:  anxiety to speak to the big name bloggers, nervousness about the speed-dating session, and even some loss of motivation and fear of rejection.

I’m a social worker so why did I sometimes feel so mentally unstable?

Easy answer:  It’s normal! Especially for your first TBEX conference. It’s something new, there a lot of people to meet, and you don’t go there to sit and not take part. You go there to take advantage of as much as possible.Some people feel that way every time, even if they’ve been coming to TBEX for years.

Preparing and taking notice of your thoughts throughout TBEX may help you change the direction of your weekend. Here’s some ways to take care of your mental health while you’re at TBEX:

Anxiety – Think of going to TBEX this way:  you’ve already bought your ticket, now you’ve arrived, what have you got to lose? There are lots of other new bloggers. You will not be the only “newbie” and for sure will not be the only one feeling anxious. If you’re feeling anxious, you can reduce it with this simple trick:  take a few breaths, smile, look up into the sky/ceiling, and keep going.

Don’t let anxiety hold you back from talking to as many people as possible. Go up to a stranger, introduce yourself, and be the first to break the ice. Try asking someone about any advice they might have for you. Do it a few time and you’ll get the hang of it, and then it’s as routine as 1-2-3.

Confidence – Oh my goodness, so what happens when you’re actually approaching marketers, travel agencies, and pitching your blog to others? That’s a whole other anxiety level, often combined with shyness and lack of confidence. I remember thinking the Speed-dating session playing with my confidence – thinking about other bloggers who have been around for much longer than myself and waiting for that moment that you get 8 minutes to pitch another company. Some bloggers don’t even do speed dating.

You can actually pitch the agencies throughout TBEX at the “open market” hours if you don’t want to be tied down to a slot, approaching them when you feel most comfortable. Ask yourself if you’re more confident in the mornings or if you’re someone who gets a good second wind in the afternoon, and go for it then. Wear some lucky item or just say to yourself “now or never”.

Medications and Alcohol – This is something that doesn’t often get talked about, but don’t forget prescribed medications (anti-depressants, anti-anxiety, anti-psychotics,etc.), how they might affect you. and make sure you know what side effects you might experience.

TBEX-ers like to go out for drinks, and there are lots of parties. Alcohol is a depressant no matter how lively or how much fun it may contribute into the night. Don’t let alcohol bring you down, especially if the conference is not going as you expected or if you feel inferior to others.

Whatever emotions may arise throughout the TBEX conference, make sure you maintain yourself in an appropriate, well-mannered, and healthy way. Enjoy the conference and don’t let your mind play tricks on you. Go do what you came to do and take advantage of every opportunity. And don’t forget to have fun!

 

Author Bio:  Angelica is a Double Psychology Major who loves to travel and influence others to do the same. While hopping around islands, cities, and scuba diving around the globe, she enjoys documenting her journeys on her blog, BrooklynChickTravels. She has recently resigned from her social work job to become a flight attendant. Follow her @BKChickTravels on her flying journey!